Do you have anxiety?
Sweaty hands and feet, Numb hands and feet, Confusion, Unable to concentrate, Elephant on your chest, and Tightness around throat are just a few symptoms of anxiety.
Anxiety sucks, plain and simple.
Anxiety is the one of the worst things I have experienced. Yes, me, the loud – outgoing – no worries – ready for anything – me. I HATE it. I was always so scared to talk about it because I mean come on I have an AWESOME life and what do I have to have anxiety about? It took me a long time and sometimes still, that I have to tell myself it is not what you have gone through or what you do or don’t have it is a chemical imbalance. I never wanted to admit that I had it. I always wanted something else to be wrong. Something that could be fixed like a broken bone. But no. That wasn’t the case. So I had to face it. Maybe some of you have not faced it or still hoping for something else to be wrong so I am here to say it’s okay to have anxiety and IT IS NOT ALL IN YOUR HEAD! For those that say anxiety is all in our heads, well you can Fuck Off! This shit sucks enough without you telling us that we are doing it to ourselves.
There is a difference in filling your head with worries and bringing anxiety on. I do this constantly. Worrying about things that will probably never happen or worrying about things that happened 4 years ago.
There is a difference in having anxiety and having panic attacks. Having a family that suffers from both anxiety and panic attacks I have seen and learned the difference of the two. If my anxiety is high it is common for me to have a panic attack but sometimes I can just be feeling anxious and need to take a break to let it calm down.
Ways to calm anxiety:
- Take care of what you can and let go of what you can’t – You and your family are the most important thing. Take care of you guys first and stop worrying about the grass that needs to be cut or the 50th hole your dog is digging.
- Breathe – Learn to breathe, when you need to breathe. It’s okay to take a minute for yourself. You are important!
- Count your blessings – Look at the positives in your life and not the negatives. Negativity is everywhere in the world right now so this can be difficult but on those rough days count your blessings more often.
- Talk to someone – This helped me a lot. When I was ready to admit that I had anxiety talking to my husband actually calmed my anxiety a lot. it still does, when I am having an episode just having him talk to me about random stuff calms me. I also talked to a doctor and that helped tremendously.
- Find a focus point – Finding a steady point, like a piece of furniture or something still, helps you to focus on reality and not your anxiety.
- Stay calm – This can be pretty tough when your hands are sweaty, feet are numb, and feeling like your having a heart attack. But, this is important. Stay calm and tell yourself you’re not dying and everything is going to be okay.
- Positivity – Having positive things in your life like friends, family, accomplishments, your children, etc. can help you keep your anxiety down. Life is too short to keep negativity around.
The best thing to do to calm your anxiety is figure out what works best for you. What works for someone else may not work for you and vise versa. Be open to other options as well. There is no reason to go through life suffering. It’s okay to except help and it’s okay to need help. Whether you decide to take the anxiety medication or just go to a psychiatrist as long as it is working for you. Nobody else has to live your life so you decide how you want to live it and everybody else can go screw themselves.
If you or somebody close to you are going through this, it’s going to be okay and there are options out there to help you get through it and remember, its okay to have a bad anxiety day. Just remember all days end and you are strong.
If you have a tip that you think may help someone, leave a comment!